Do you find it difficult to say no? Do you worry about disappointing people, avoid conflict, or regularly put other people's needs before your own?

People-pleasing involves consistently prioritising other people's wants, needs or feelings over your own. While being caring and considerate are positive qualities, people-pleasing can leave you feeling anxious, exhausted, resentful or disconnected from what you actually want.

Understanding attachment can bring a sense of clarity and compassion. Rather than seeing relationship struggles as random or purely personal failings, they can be understood as meaningful patterns shaped over time. This perspective opens the possibility for change, allowing people to respond differently in relationships and create more secure, stable, and fulfilling connections.

Emotional dysregulation is when emotions feel too big, too fast, or too difficult to manage. It can result in feelings of overwhelm, irritability, panic, anger, or shutdown. When you are dysregulated, the thinking part of the brain switches off, making considered decisions very difficult, while the mammalian “survival” part of the brain works hard.